Does your babe have a lovey? We first started using one with our oldest daughter, Vienna, when we were sleep training. (If sleep training isn’t for you, please feel free to simply pass on this article #toeachtheirown). Miss V slept for 2-3 hours max at at time and while we were over the moon in love with all those new baby experiences, we were also Losing. Our. Minds.
One of the recommendations for sleep training was to have a “lovey” that always went to sleep with her and provided comfort. I think the proper reference is “transitional object”, but I’ll leave that to the sleep experts to discuss. 😉 Both of my girls have a lovey and they snuggle up and fall asleep easily with it every night.
I remember the day I picked up Vienna’s lovey: 9 months pregnant, not sure if I was having a boy or girl, browsing the “gender neutral” (read: boys) section at Carters. Vienna loves to hear about how I found her beloved stuffed monkey, and I think that’s just the sweetest thing.
We’d be in dire state if we ever lost her lovey. In fact, I remember my sister losing her beloved Champ Bear when we were kids on a picnic trip with my Grampa and he actually flagged down truck drivers to ask them if they’d seen it. Desperate times call for desperate measures, people. Also, he was a total hero.
Here are my top 5 Tips for Choosing the Right Lovey for your baby.
Choose something that is easy to wash. Toddler germs, stomach bugs, need I say more? Moms everywhere are nodding right now.
2. Two of a Kind
Buy two; you’ll need a back up for when one is in the wash, daycare, etc. (see #1 above). The company Angel Dear knows this concept well and have started packaging their loveys in threes– genius.
3. Sleep Time Only
Limit lovey time to bedtime only. There’s been times when we haven’t followed through on this and you can usually find my kids snuggling up as though they are going for a nap out of nowhere. Your baby’s lovey isn’t a toy or something to be dragged everywhere. You’ll have the most success if you use it for bedtime, nap time, and when your kids need that extra bit of comfort (transitioning to a daycare, for example). So if your child is older, don’t choose a toy they already play with all the time.
4. You Love It
Pick something you won’t mind having around until the end of time. Trust me on this one.
5. Safe for Sleeping
Aria slept with her mouse on her face for the first few months of her life. We’d watch her on the monitor pick up, and carefully place the dress fabric across her face and then go back to sleep. Anyone who know’s Aria (#diva) won’t be surprised by this. I mean, why wouldn’t she make her own sleep mask?! Make sure you choose something that is safe for babies to sleep with, in terms of size, breath-ability, materials, etc.
A lovey will make your sleep training process so much easier, offering comfort and consistency to your baby as they build great sleep habits. And, since this weekend marks daylight savings time, be sure to check out my tips on navigating the time change with kids.
Need some inspiration? Here are five lovies we love!